It’s a sad truth that anywhere you go, there’s a risk that someone might make you feel like you’re in danger or actually put you in peril. Even places that are meant for people to have fun aren’t free of this.

Luckily, many spots nowadays have various safety measures for such situations. For example, in bars, there are certain code words a person can use to signal being in danger. Today, let’s take a look at stories of people using these words to get out of risky situations and see how it turned out for them.

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#1

In a time before the safe word existed I was on a terrible first date at a bar. The guy was super handsy and wouldn’t stop touching me. I excused myself to the washroom and an angel of a bar tender came down to check on me. She had noticed I looked uncomfortable and asked if I needed help. I said yes and she left and told the guy to pay his tab and leave because the date was over. She was a legend.

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#2

It started off like any other awkward first date small talk, drinks, nothing too weird. But halfway through, he leaned in, smiled, and said, “If you ever ghost me, just remember… I’m really good at finding people.”

My stomach dropped. I laughed it off, excused myself, and went to the bar. Told the bartender I needed an Angel Shot with a twist. He didn’t even blink just gave me a quiet nod and walked away.

A minute later, security showed up and asked the guy to step outside. Turns out he had a knife on him. I still don’t know what would’ve happened if the staff hadn’t stepped in, but they handled it like pros.

I went home shaken, but safe.

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#3

Went on a first date with a guy I met online. I’m 22, he was 38 ; which I figured might be fine, until he started immediately going on about how “girls my age are way more grateful” and how he “prefers women who haven’t been ruined by bad relationships.”

He kept leaning in way too close, saying he liked how “innocent” I looked, and then casually started rubbing my thigh under the table while talking about how “soft and obedient” I seemed. I froze. It was that gross kind of touch where you don’t want to make a scene, but your whole body’s screaming to get away.

I excused myself to go to the loo, walked past the bar, and quietly asked the bartender if Angela was working tonight. He just nodded and said “Right this way.” Within a minute, a female staff member found me by the bathrooms and said someone was waiting for me outside. They walked me out the back, stayed with me while I ordered a cab, and made sure I was safe.

He texted me the next day saying he “hoped I’d learned to be more polite.” Immediately blocked and reported 😭.

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#4

Didn’t use a code phrase, but I was having pizza in a small park, like you can see the whole thing at once. As I’m sitting, this guy comes up and starts talking to me and I’m very uninterested. I started saying a bunch of stuff that I thought would turn him off and he just kept being super pushy. So I went back into the pizza joint, saying I needed to use the restroom. When I got in, I asked if they had a back door to an alley or something because this guy was being super creepy and I needed a way out. One of the cooks walked me through the kitchen and out the back. Thanks Kris!

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#5

As someone who’s worked in several bars across the years in the UK, I’ve seen this be used a few times. Our protocol differed a little from each place but the general standard was to immediately take the person back to a private space and ask for details/how we could help. It didn’t matter how busy it was, it was drilled into all staff to take this seriously. Usually we would inform doorstaff if we had them and/or get the person escorted to a taxi by doormen or a member of staff. When I later trained staff for a new bar I made sure they all knew how important these protocols were.

To people on the other side of the bar: us barstaff pay attention! Your safety is important and don’t be afraid to use the safety tools or talk to us if you need help.

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#6

Was out with a couple of friends and one had brought along a lad she barely knew and was essentially a rebound.

He was a creep was trying to put his hands down her pants and up her top in the middle of the restaurant, yes a actual restaurant, at 6pm so certainly wasn’t quiet. She told him no and stop repeatedly but he wouldn’t and was just telling me to [lay] off and mind my business.

When my friends went to the toilet ans he went for a smoke I went to the bar, asked if Eileen was working as my friend needs help. The lad knew what I meant, sent a female staff member to the toilets, radioed the doorman who came over and told the lad he was out of control and needed to leave. The lad threw a punch at the doorman, called me a ferret then was dragged outside by two large doorman. Police were called and no idea what happened after that.

Couldn’t have been handled any better.

Edit to add this was at a wetherspoons, thought I’d it for some positive story since it gets alot of negative attention.

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#7

I work as a DJ and I have a few success stories.

My fave is texting a picture from the booth of a guy to security, than watching that guy get calmly escorted out thirty seconds later.

Followed closely by that time I was in a much more visible booth and while the other DJ was up I just sort of stood in the booth watching an obvious creep circle the dancefloor before he saw me and just… Walked out. Other DJ says I jedi mind tricked him into leaving.

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#8

Had a stranger come up to me while I was reading outside an otherwise empty coffee shop. I’m a very petite woman living solo, so I went into a nearby restaurant as I didn’t want to walk home and have him follow me.

He did, however, follow me to the restaurant and plop down at my table as if we were on a date. My waitress didn’t take me seriously until I cried while he was at the bar.

He wound up shoving his way into the kitchen yelling about how he “couldn’t find his girl” and got aggressive with them.

I ended up being hidden in a storage room waiting to be taken home while the waitstaff called police for trespassing.

All in all, 0/5 star experience, but all of the women who yanked me out were very kind. I’m a firm believer more places should have a safe word system.

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#9

I asked for an Angel Shot once. Barkeep asked who.
I said the guy in the blue shirt, he’s getting a little aggressive.
Dude pulled out a nerf gun and said hey blue shirt I’ve got a bullet for you.

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#10

A couple of guys tried to physically march me out of the bar to their car. It was just them, the bartender, and myself in the place. I told them I needed the restroom and gave the bartender a very pointed look on the way to it. Thankfully, he understood. I heard an argument through the door but I couldn’t make out the details. A few minutes later, he knocked on the bathroom door and told me they gave up and left. The bartender made sure I was ok til close, then drove me home.
I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for that barkeep looking after me.

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#11

My manager had to do this. poor lass was being stalked by her ex and she asked if angela was working, he said of course and took her upstairs to “meet her” until the cops arrived to deal with the guy.

the second worst part is, it’s so lucky he was trained for that because none of the rest of us were trained at all, despite there being posters around the building that literally said “staff were specially trained to help victims who ask for angela”. i would have known, and many of my women coworkers probably did, but not because we were trained for it, and she got so lucky she ran into the right person.

i don’t know what happened to her after that but i hope she’s safe and well.

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#12

A girl came up to me in a bar, grabbed my arms and kissed me on the lips and said, “hey baby!” And winked at me, and kissed me one more time (I think to hide my face). I smiled and then saw the guy behind her at the bar scowling at me. I looked at the girl and said, “Hey! How was work?” She turned to the guy and said, “see? I told you he’s my boyfriend. Now leave me alone.” She went back to her table of girlfriends and she bought our table a round. Never saw her again, she never came back to the bar, and I’m glad she didn’t because he was there often. But I know how much she appreciated that and I was happy to do it.

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#13

Girl in late night restaurant/bar didn’t look good like she was either totally drunk or [laced]. I spoke to staff about getting in touch with Angela and sending her the girl’s way. Doorman had a word with her and the guy she was with. The chap got mouthy so was taken outside. Couple of doormen slapped him around for a bit. They found a syringe with some liquid on him and a bottle of something with a pipette. The guy wouldn’t explain what the liquids were. Police were called. Other patrons where hearing that this guy might have drugged some also tried to give him a kicking albeit failed while some other women also tried to get attention by saying he had also [laced] them or tried even though they had come in after he and the original girl had.

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#14

I was working expo in the kitchen later at night and when Dylan, our other bartender, went home it was just Jamie. This girl handed her a dollar with something written on it, and Jamie came into the kitchen to have myself and another cook come out and talk to the guy to keep his attention while my buddy walked her to her car. Once she was safe, we told him to pay his bill and leave.

We voided her bill and took it on as a store expense. It was worth it.

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