You may not be able to choose your blood relatives, but you can definitely opt out of the family you’ve married into. If your in-laws don’t respect you or treat you like an outsider, it may be in your best interest to sever ties with them.
This is a predicament a woman found herself in when her mother-in-law constantly disregarded her gluten allergy. To make matters worse, her husband sided against her and gaslighted her instead.
After going through therapy, the woman is now thinking about a “separation” from all the toxicity.
Having toxic in-laws and an unsupportive husband can be quite the predicament
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This was a problem for a woman who claims her mother-in-law seemingly tried to trigger her food allergy on purpose
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She shared one instance when the MIL appeared to deceive her during a family dinner
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Fortunately, her sister-in-law was on her side
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But also quite unfortunately, her husband isn’t
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Unsupportive partners can literally be detrimental to a person’s health
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It’s one thing to feel distressed about having an unsupportive partner. People generally dismiss it as something they just have to deal with, along with the hope that things change for the better.
What isn’t talked about enough are the health ramifications, which range from elevated stress levels to more severe issues.
A 2024 study revealed that people experiencing a lack of spousal support tend to have more cortisol in their system. According to one of the researchers, Professor Richard Mattison, it is common among people who feel less understood, validated, and cared for by a partner.
But in worse scenarios, people who experience a lack of support from their partner are also at greater risk for coronary heart disease. According to a 2022 study, these individuals are also predisposed to depression, anxiety, and PTSD.
“Isolation and loneliness confer an approximately 30 to 60% increased risk for incident coronary heart disease and poor prognosis,” an excerpt of the study reads.
When your spouse is on your side through a conflict with your in-laws, establishing boundaries can be less of a headache. It would be easier for you to bring up the issue with them as you navigate through the problem together.
However, the author’s biggest pain point is her toxic mother-in-law and gaslighting husband. According to licensed therapist K’Hara McKinney, a lack of respect is one of the key indicators that the marriage may be over.
“If we feel disregard of boundaries, intentional harm or injury of a boundary or person, or a person encroaches on deal-breaking behavior, it may be time to get a divorce,” McKinney told Brides.
Instead of potentially compromising her health, the author may be better off getting in touch with a lawyer to help her move the proceedings along.