Not every friendship needs to have matching necklaces to be meaningful. If you care deeply about a person, support them on their best and worst days and can spend hours giggling about the silliest things, that’s all that matters. 

But unfortunately, not all friendships are perfectly balanced. And sometimes, you’re forced to swallow a bitter pill after realizing that someone you considered a close friend never actually cared about you at all. Redditors have been sharing stories of former friendships that blew up in an instant, so we’ve gathered their most heartbreaking tales below. Let these be reminders of what you deserve in your own relationships, pandas. And if a so-called friend can’t seem to put in any effort, it might be time to let them go.

#1

This was the fastest for me. I was being stalked and harassed in high school. I went to the administration and they called in the police. My best friend said “I don’t know why you have to make it such a big deal.” Never spoke to her again.

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#2

She got married. I was just friends with this girl from law school. She was a cool girl and we lived in the same city after law school.

We never had s*x. We had never seen each other naked. I was dating someone else at the time. She was dating this guy. I met her parents as just a friend – was friends with her sister.

So for about 6 years we were just pretty cool friends. She gets married… her husband then texts me and tells me to stay away from her.

I text her and say, yo, your husband is telling me not to speak with you anymore, is that what you want?

I got no response.

Cool.

A few weeks pass and I call friend’s sister and see if she wants to grab a drink as I was in the area.

“You got some f*****g nerve calling me.”

“Um… what? Listen, I know XX doesn’t want me to speak to her but not sure why we can’t be friends.”

“Are you f*****g kidding me? You ruined her life and are trying to ruin her marriage with what you did to her!”

*WHAT??????????*

“I’m sorry, I have no idea what you are talking about… I have always had her best interest at heart so I dunno.”

“Yeah, well… then why didn’t you tell her you had herpes before you f****d her.”

“Wait what??? She and I never had s*x and I don’t have herpes so I’m a little confused here.”

“Stop f*****g lying – HUSBAND told the whole thing and she never denied it so f**k you, don’t f*****g ever speak to us again!”

Alright…

Come to find out – that a*****e had herpes and didn’t tell her and he gave her herpes and when it got out that she had herpes somehow, he blamed it on me and she just let the lie take hold because it was easier than her family hating her husband.

Alright – cheers… consider it a parting gift.

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#3

In college, a former friend tried to have s*x with me (I’m also a guy) while I was black out drunk (He was not drunk). He did that despite knowing I am straight and had a girlfriend at the time. Lucky for me there were some actual friends that stopped him.

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#4

I was gaming with my best friend and my wife was sitting on the couch next to me just reading a book. She was super content just letting me game. She just wanted to be spending time with me. My friend had a not even one year old kid that he just stuck in a bouncing chair in the side of the room while we played. He said the kid loves that chair and is in it a lot, so he just games.

The kid starts whining a bit, but he gets ignored. I’m thinking “We’ll probably hit this checkpoint and he’ll go tend to his kid.” Nope. Several good stopping points had passed and the kid was fussing even more now. So my buddy says to my wife “[my wife’s name], there’s formula in the cupboard and the diaper bag is over in the corner there. He’s probably just hungry and has a poopy diaper if you wanna feed and change him.”

I looked at this guy like he’d just slapped her, turned my game off and said “How about instead of asking my wife to do it, you put down your game and take care of your own child?”

A bit of a harsh response, but he looked so butt hurt that I’d just told him to take care of his own child instead of game all day. I packed my stuff up and we left. I haven’t spoken to him in 3 years.

TL;DR My former best friend told my wife to feed and change his infant child so he could keep playing video games. We don’t speak anymore.

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#5

One of my best friends of several years set me up to get robbed for £390, my wallet and my jacket. The guy who robbed me pulled a machete on me and kept it against my neck. I don’t really know why they decided they want to do it, but I know from enough people (and just the way it all happened gave me suspicions) telling me it was him that I found out.

So naturally I stopped being friends with him, because it was a bit of a d**k move and all.

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#6

I’m the dumped friend.

She posted a video from The Onion of a fake Senator reading a fake bill that was all redacted and you could tell with context clues it was basically saying in the event of Armageddon, the high powered people have bunkers to hide in. She made some comment about the redacting and our government is hiding stuff.

I commented that it was a satire video and not real. She got super mad and accused me of trying to make her look stupid. She said there was no way she could’ve known.

“The Onion” was in the bottom right hand corner of the video.

She blocked me and we have never spoken since.

We had known each other for at least five years. I (more accurately, my parents) took her in when she ran away from home for, like, a year when we were teens. When her husband beat her up (early 20s) I road tripped all night to pick her back and move her back in.

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#7

Best friend and ex coworker for 5 years. Confided in her and told her about my self harming, depression and stuff I went through as a child (you can imagine), two days later she not only told the whole of my old work place but told my family too. Absolutely heartbreaking.

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#8

We had one friend that said he fell on bad times with money, so we paid everything for him during the next couple of months(drinks, cigars, travel), and after a few months we found out he was going out with new people all that time and was acting rich in front of them with all the money he was saving by scaming us. I hope it was as worth it for him as it was for us.

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#9

She told me to never speak to her again after she learned I was hearing voices. And we never spoke again.

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#10

After i spent all day using my truck and trailer helping him haul tables and chairs and a giant archway to the church for his wedding that i was supposed to be a groomsmen.

Him “Hey dude, i really appreciate you helping me move this stuff, i couldn’t get anyone else to help, here’s $20 for the gas”

Me “woah dude, I’m IN your wedding, I don’t need money to help make this happen”

Him- “yeah dude so hey, brent (his soon-to-be wifes best guy friend/100% ex f**k buddy/guy he’s known for less than 3 months), really wanted to be in the wedding and i was wondering if it would be cool if he took your spot and i can see if any of her cousins backed out and if there’s a seat open somewhere”

This was the day before the wedding.

I had been best friends with that guy since kindergarten, his wife didn’t like me because I knew about her wild past from a different circle of friends so this was her attempt to push me out.

He caved but none of the other people involved would help move s**t so he waited until last minute to get me to help.

Haven’t spoken to that guy since, and last i heard she quit her job and sucks d**k in his house all day while he’s at work. They deserve each other.

Edit- i feel like i need to add, two days after the wedding the church venue called me frantic, apparently no one picked up the chairs, tables, and archway from the church venue and those f***s gave my number and told them I was supposed to be picking them up. That didn’t happen.

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#11

I was going through some s**t and needed to be talked down from s*****e one night. I told my friend I really needed help and someone to talk to she said “I’m really not up for that right now. You’re on your own.” I listened to this woman rant about her money troubles and helped her out. The one time I need some help, that took a lot in me to ask for, I get a selfish “sorry b***h. Not my job.”. I haven’t talked to her in 7 years and she can still go f**k herself. On the brighter side, I was too f*****g mad at her to k**l myself that night.
Edit: I didnt tell her I was s******l. I kept that part to myself, I just told her I needed someone to talk to because of my anxiety and depression were really f*****g with me and please don’t leave me alone, I really needed to just be told everything was alright. She wanted to watch TV and not talk me and for me to “get over it” and it “wasn’t her job to hold [my] hand.”

Hope that clears it up.

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#12

My cousin and I were inseparable as teens. He went on his mission (Mormon) and I went to hang out for a few days when he got back, I was so excited. I got there, paid for all the fun stuff we went out to do, no problem. His childhood friend and I were trying to get him to go for a walk to this cave we used to go to and he decided to tell me what a piece of trash I am and I’m going to hell because I’m gay. I didn’t say a word as I drove him home immediately. I said “get out” and haven’t talked to him in the 8 years since then, f**k him.

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#13

After convincing me to delete my accounts everywhere and make new ones. After promising me that they’ll protect me from my a*****e ex. After witnessing everything my ex done to me, and how it scarred me for life, I found out that my best friend was dating my ex behind my back for months, lying about it the whole time.

I didn’t know who my friend was dating, as they refused to introduce them in person. It turns out they’ve been dating behind my back a few weeks before my ex broke up with me. The whole thing scarred me to this day. It’s been a year and I haven’t heard from either of them since, though. Good riddance.

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#14

“I’m sorry, I was so drunk I can’t remember how good it was.” Referring to b***ing my girlfriend at the time. We were close friends for 6 years. His name? Why.. Kyle of course.

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#15

I posted on Facebook something along the lines of “Congratulations to my friends John and Mike for finally getting married!” and she posted a long homophobic/religious rant comment about how all lgbtq people are going to hell and so will anyone associated with them.

Thinking that there had to be some form of miscommunication going on, I emailed and asked her why she wrote that. Turns out in all our years of friendship, we had never discussed anything lgbtq related (which is really weird now that I look back on it) and that was how she really felt.

So, uh, bye. Never spoke to her again.

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#16

My best friend accused me of “making him gay.”

No joke.

He was in the closet when I met him, and throughout our years of friendship I tried my best to show love and support to him during his gradual coming-out process. He came from a conservative family and really resisted coming out. When he finally came to terms with his sexual orientation, I guess he convinced himself somehow that I was the one who planted that seed of homosexuality in his mind and corrupted him. When he yelled at me, in tears, “you made me gay!” I couldn’t believe that he was serious. I was willing to forgive, because I knew it wasn’t really about me, but from that day on he began pushing me away and treating me like s**t. After putting up with the a*****e and toxic behavior for months, I eventually told him that I was done, moved out, and never spoke to him again.

Years later, he emailed me an apology. I have nothing but love for him, and part of me still grieves because he was like a brother to me, but I haven’t tried to rekindle the friendship.

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#17

Yeah, I had a friend who I met clubbing and only really had a friendship with because we went to the same nightclubs. We went out for coffee once day and there was a noisy child screaming away at a nearby table. She made a derogatory comment about the child being mixed race and how she didn’t agree with mixed race relationships (up until this point I’d not seen anything like that from her at all) and I pointed out that my then boyfriend, now husband was mixed race and I wasn’t happy with her comment & she responded with “yeah but (husband) can pass for white so it’s fine!”.

I made my excuses and left and ignored her messages of “are you out tonight?” after that. She did pop up on social media a few years later when Facebook started and I had a nose on her profile out of morbid curiosity and wasn’t shocked to see she was an active member of the EDL.

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#18

Had a dude I was friends with in the military. Pretty cool guy, looked out for everyone, tried to take care of everyone. He was all around a great guy.

Right up until you get him talking about women. As soon as he starts talking about females, he turns into the most downright misogynist pig ive ever met. As a guy I can understand some talking and elaborating when it comes to the other gender, but the things he would say makes people downright uncomfortable and are conversation stoppers. He had been told multiple times about it, warned and warned, and it still didnt stop. The worst part? He was married and continues to be. Dont worry, he cheats on her with as many females as he can find.

Hard no in my book.

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#19

My dad died a few years ago, and while everyone I know were sending us condolences, one of my best friends I’ve had since elementary school tried to send my mom d**k pics. He didn’t want me to find out but naturally my mom told me immediately. Haven’t talked to him since. No room for that kind of betrayal in my life. My dad had done a lot for him, too, including straight-up giving him money when he needed it. Just pure wtf. Sucks.

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#20

Senior year of high school, I planned a small roadtrip to a nearby city for me and my friends. Everyone was super excited. I planned activities, restaurants, sightseeing, looked at Airbnbs, etc.. One by one, they all told me they didn’t have enough money and couldn’t go. I said it was fine, so I cancelled the trip. Found out via their Snapchat stories that they lied to me and went on the trip I planned without me, including all the activities and restaurants I had suggested. They posted a lot of the pics on Snapchat and instagram too. Never spoke to them again.

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#21

I got se***lly a**aulted by two guys in a summer camp and told it to my best friend. After calling me stupid for letting that happen, she apologised and I forgave her. Then I saw her parents who asked how summer camp went and all she did was turn to me and go “well, you made many friends, didn’t you ? Don’t you wanna tell my parents about it ?” with a big smile on her face. I don’t feel too bad about thinking that she can f**k off in hell.

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#22

My best mate’s now ex girlfriend told everyone I had s*x with her while they were dating, when I definitely had not.

She was the most irritating person I’d ever met and I don’t know if I’ve ever been attracted to someone less, than I was to her.

Ruined our friendship and destroyed her relationship with my mate.

She is one of those people that CRAVE drama and can’t live without having something wrong to moan about. She’s currently pretending to have multiple personality disorder and blaming that for every time she’s a d******d so she can get away with it.

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#23

My former best friend , of over 6 years, hit up my ex girlfriend the day we broke up. He sent her a DM asking if she wanted to “hangout at his house” (parents but wtv). At the time he also had a girlfriend, who was pregnant with his kid. My ex hit me and his girlfriend up with the messages. My ex and his girlfriend decided to go together at his place and expose him.

I didn’t want to do with any of that but I didn’t want anything to happen to either of the girls. So we show up, his mom greets us and let’s us in, as soon as he saw us 3 he knew that his s**t was up but acted all surprised. We told him we knew, he kept defending his case by saying his little brother (who was f*****g 6) sent my ex those messages.

Well to make a long story short, his pregnant girlfriend left him, he’s currently paying child support, he also moved out of the state like a month later. My ex and I are back together and 3 months into our marriage.

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#24

Didn’t love my dog when he was dog sitting, carelessly let her run away, then failed to look for her. My surveillance cameras caught it all… I was PISSED. Friendship over.

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#25

I was 16 and had my first boyfriend. I confided in my best friend of a decade that I was really upset because he got annoyed at something I said at Baskin Robins and threw me against a table and then down on the floor, and that it wasn’t the first time he’d shoved me around.

She told me that she didn’t want to hear it and that I had no right to complain because unlike her, at least I had a boyfriend.

That was pretty much that for our friendship.

Edit to add: so people can stop freaking, yes, I broke up with him, and it was like 2 and a half decades ago. I’m in a safe and loving marriage.

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#26

You know what, recently, like late 2019 I started getting out of the house. I’m a single father of two girls and I’ve focused on them 1000% for a really long time. I finally got out of the house a few times, and I’m serious I went to this friends house a few times for game nights… basically drinking and cards. Till this dude hauled off and hit me for accidentally touching his f*****g hat of all things. What struck me most is that they were hosting and didn’t even offer an apology to me. It was quite insane for me. It was like I was back in highschool. Unf**king real. I gave them ample time to f*****g realize what happened. It took the person 3 months to even realize we are no longer friends on social media and she’s trying to add me back now…. and honestly, it f*****g broke something in me.

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#27

An ex-friend of mine was pushing me for inappropriate images under the flimsy guise of “joking”, seemingly out of nowhere. (I was in a three year relationship with my now husband and this ex-friend of mine also had a gf of his own during this whole ordeal. Real classy.)

Now, this wasn’t really something he had done previously in all our years knowing one another, so with that in mind I foolishly tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and just made it unmistakably clear to him that if he didn’t stop behaving like a mindless pervert I’d cut contact and end our friendship.

Then one day I got an image text; it was his b***r outlined in gym shorts and a sad and completely see through fish for compliments then the most pathetic backpedal of the century.

Friendship of 10+ years ended, but not before I f*****g laid into him first before blocking that toxic predator’s a*s.

F**k you, Lyle.

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#28

I have chronic health issues, and my best friend was trying to get me to drive 30 minutes to her house to go swimming when I had to pack to leave town the next day. She kept pushing and pushing, but when she finally realized I wasn’t going to agree, she sat back and said, “You wouldn’t be any fun even if you HAD your health.”

I left and didn’t speak to her again.

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#29

Yes. For some background, I was best friends with this girl (let’s call her Alice) for several years, I had just ended a relationship with a guy that through the course of our five-year relationship developed an a*******n to opioids that ultimately resulted in our painful break up, and I’m bi.

Anyway, I started dating a woman I met through Alice. Alice was becoming increasingly territorial, even before I started hanging out with this woman. Eventually we became more serious and Alice called my girlfriend and told her that I’d said “she was just some lesbian that was obsessed with me” about my girlfriend. These words have never and would never leave my mouth, it was just Alice’s attempt at sabotaging our relationship. Fortunately my girlfriend knew better and called me immediately and I was able to fix the situation and right the wrong. However, my friendship with Alice was absolutely done as soon as I knew this.

Side note: Alice hase since completely ruined multiple other friendships within our friend group because of her deceit and mistreatment of people. It’s the most vivid example of karma I can think of.

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#30

I just found out through word of mouth that one of my best friends and groomsmen has been telling people he’s skipping my wedding to go to his girlfriend’s college graduation. He’s known me for 8 years, they’ve been dating for 6 months.

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#31

My husband had a best friend. Been friends for over a decade. He asked his best friend to be his best man at our wedding. He agreed. Then a two weeks before our wedding he asked if he could bring a date. We were puzzled as we didn’t think he’d been dating anyone. So we inquired and were like “sure.” Turns out it was one of our mutual friend’s wife he was banging. We all hated her anyway, but him wanting to bring her as his date was the end for my husband. The friend said that not only would he not be the best man, but he wouldn’t come to the wedding if he couldn’t bring the friend’s wife he was cheating with. Yep. That was a big nope. They haven’t been friends since.

I had a friend that I ended things with because she said “Your problem is you have too much humanity. You care about people too much.” I asked her if she cared at all about her fellow human beings and she said “Don’t know them. F**k them. Why do you think I carry a gun?” We were in a heated discussion and I had to take a breather. The absolute look of triumph and joy on her face that she had because she “broke me” to the point that I to step away was enough for me. So it wasn’t so much what she said, but the fact that she was so genuinely happy that she hurt me so badly. Her look was like “Gotcha b***h! I won the argument!” The fact that her winning was more important than our friendship and trying to see each other’s point of view was it for me. She was no one I wanted to know. She admitted to me when we first became friends that she doesn’t have empathy or compassion. I should have listened. I just thought she was being hard on herself. Nope.

#32

“We hate how you became a mother all of a sudden and now spend no time with us at the bar anymore”.

Because apparently the friendship was only real if we were in a bar, I guess.
Lost 5 friends on the spot.

Now that I think about it…… maybe they were not even friends to begin with.
Hated going to the bar anyway!

#33

It was during college and i was having a conversation with 2 of my friends. I don’t know how we got to the topic but then 1 of the girls says something along the lines of ‘I don’t really like gay people, i think what they do is disgusting and i would never support them… But guy on guy stuff is kind of hot’ and i honestly just walked a way right there and then. And we havent spoken since. I’m not gay myself, but i just hate that way of thinking and was honestly shocked at how proud she was of that statement.

#34

Helped a girl who was going through a very very VERY bad time when she was 15 and I was 17. Gave her a room at my house, fed her, made sure she went to school, nearly lost all my old friends making sure this girl was safe (still don’t really speak to them). Over the years, we’ve had disagreements, more terrible things happened to her and I also moved country so I could work and sort out my own mental issues.

I’ve held in my mental issues for longer than I’ve known this woman. I didn’t want to worry or upset her, in case she felt it was her fault (it definitely wasn’t). I moved back to where I used to last year to help my father who was seriously ill and to help her.

The last month or two, my mental state has deteriorated massively. Dark thoughts, emotions becoming very unstable, extreme loneliness etc. I asked my friend if I could speak to her about how I felt. I sent 2 messages about it and got the replies “I can’t deal with this” and “you’re so pushy I hate it you’re my friend”. Told me she’ll text me when she feels like it.

My only real friend of the past 5 years, who I’ll admit I love her like a sister and would blindly support her, no matter what, no longer talks to me because I’ve been struggling with mental issues and asked if I could talk to her.

Tldr only real friend I have abandoned me in the one time I’ve needed them since I’ve known them.

#35

My best friend quit as the best man of my wedding 2 weeks before weddings day. Why did he quit? His new girlfriend doesn’t like me.

#36

She spread a rumour that my girlfriend of the time didn’t really exist (that social circle never met her due to the GF living in another town) and that I made this girlfriend up to cover for the fact that I was actually dating the her (the one spreading the rumour). I was furious and broke off all contact as soon as I heard about it.

#37

‘all women secretly want to be r***d.’ I pulled over and told him to get out. Haven’t answered his calls since.

#38

A second best friend from college. I moved away for a year and my best friend and boyfriend lived in the same town while I was gone.

They came to visit, they drove up together, we all had a great time. I came down to visit, we had a great time.

Then i move back, get a promotion, boyfriend proposes, buy a house, etc. all in about 3 months. And boom this girl never wants to speak to me again. She tells me she hopes I’m happy with him and refuses to sit down and talk to me about it. I reach out and try to explain I’m hurt and I miss her. Get pretty plain responses about no thanks hope your happy with your life.

I was pretty heartbroken. But looking back it was obvious she was jealous of other people’s happiness. She was always complaining about her work, how she can’t afford her apartment, always cycling through boyfriends And heartbroken she couldn’t find someone to love her, and always talking trash about any of our friends success. I realized this was just too much all at once and she hated me for it. She trash talked our mutual friend getting into a stanford masters program. She trash talked our mutual friend who got a great job in San Francisco. She trash talked HER friend who got up and moved across the world for a boy and a lavish life in Ireland (straight movie style no joke haha). She trash talked HER sisters fitness Instagram success (which became a crazy empire so go her her! She’s killin it!)

In the end it’s obvious she feels a lot of competition with those in her life and I’ll never understand that.

#39

Had a “friend”, C, that constantly borrowed money from me in high school, and never once paid me back. She’d promise to pay me back each time, and give me like, whole stories about how she’d pay me back as soon as she got her allowance on Wednesday or whatever, and then if I asked for the money back later, she’d claim she’d already paid me back.

Her begging got so bad that I literally stopped carrying cash with me to school because if I stood up and she heard change jiggling in my pocket, she’d beg for an hour to borrow money until I lent her some. God forbid if she noticed I’d bought myself a snack or anything.

Anyways, the friendship had mostly ended by the next year, just because as it turns out she was a pretty s****y friend all around and we were fighting about something. But I guess I was still sorta holding out hope for it in some way or another. A mutual friend, R, asked me if I could talk to C because she’d borrowed a favourite belt and some money and R wanted it back (and my locker was right beside C’s). I told R that it was probably gone but I’d ask anyways.

Asked about R’s money and belt. I still remember C’s response.

“I only repay friends.”

Any thought I’d ever had that this might be a redeemable friendship went out the window. Told R what was said, offered to pay them back myself, but I was never speaking to C again. And never did. Four years of “friendship” over in that sentence, because it meant that she had never once considered me a friend, just a source of money.

#40

I had a friend at work, he and I were good friends. He even pet-sit for my girlfriend and I while we were out of town. The whole shebang.

Then he straight up told us that he had stolen from the company and didn’t regret it. An expensive item too, it was a tablet computer that he was supposed to raffle at a public event. Just kept it.

One of the fastest clean cuts I’ve ever made.

#41

Had a good friend just suddenly get obsessed with “chemtrails”. To the point where he would disappear while we were working on something and I’d find him outside taking pictures of contrails in the sky. He tried to convince me and I was just like, “I don’t really believe in that. Not my thing.” He would not let it go. He would send me all these YouTube videos that were supposed to be evidence but they were just people explaining the chemtrail conspiracy. There was no evidence. He wouldn’t stop so I just told him bluntly I was done being his friend and blocked him from everything.

#42

I live in a small town. One of my employees is transgender and is self-conscious about small town folks staring at her and saying s**t. A friend of mine saw me at lunch with her and I introduced them. A few weeks later I saw my friend at another community function where he brought up my trans employee and said a bunch of disparaging things about her. I didn’t make a big deal of it, but I have stopped asking my ex-friend to hang out and always turn down invitations to hang out. When I was a kid I was “different” and I want nothing to do with people who disparage people just for being different.

#43

I once told a lifelong friend that I wasn’t voting for the same candidate he did in the 2016 election, and he told me I was committing a crime against the United States of America, unfriended me on social media, and has never spoken to me again.

And I can pretty much promise you, the person you think I voted for isn’t who I voted for.

#44

When I was ~18 I started seeing a girl we got on really well but in the end she decided we were better off as friends and began dating my best friend.

(She was right and we are still friends to this day and both happily married to other people.)

After a few months the two of them seem pretty serious and though I’m a bit cut up I do my best to be happy for them. It hurts to hear it but she’s super keen on him they’ve told each other they love each other blah blah blah.

I’m hanging out with my buddy one day and I say “you guys are getting pretty serious, she told me you love each other”. He responds, “ah no man, I just tell her that s**t so she sleeps with me”.

It was really hard for me to look at him the same way after that and though we’re friends again now it soured our friendship for a few years afterwards.

#45

I helped a friend get hired into my old job. She was fired in a week for gross insubordination. I was so embarrassed that I stopped talking to her.

#46

He became a flat earther.

#47

“Hey do you wanna be your own boss and retire by 25?”.

#48

Friend had physically harmed another friend who was drunk because he thought nobody would notice.

Next day I confronted him, and after looking in my eyes and denying what I had seen for 30 minutes, it was like his mask came off. I have never understood the descriptions of the *coldness* of eyes until that moment. He just looked at me, smiled, and said “Honestly? I just don’t care.”

We are no longer friends. Everyone else eventually figures out that he was bats*it and takes a step back. He checks into a psych ward for 3 days, but *keeps the admittance bracelet on for the next three weeks*. Tells everyone he talks to, using my name, about this b***h who destroyed his life and caused him to attempt s*****e.

Don’t be friends with psychopaths, kids. If they have alienated everyone they ever knew, the common denominator is them.

#49

Had a whole bunch do it at once. I used to have a group of people I thought were my friends. Because of this, I did a lot for them. I helped them out by working on their projects, supported them, let one stay in my home rent free when they were in danger of becoming homeless.

I did all that for these people, but two years in a row, they couldn’t be bothered to do something as simple and easy as meet up with me for drinks to celebrate my birthday. Half of them didn’t even bother responding to being invited. I’ve pretty much cut them all out my life now, I’m done being used by those who don’t care about me.

#50

Yup. She said she was going to k**l herself because of me. All I did was plan an event her baby couldn’t come to. I get she was dealing with postpartum depression but that’s a hard no for me.

#51

So, my friends and I all found out that another friend (from here on known as BG for Birthday Girl) had never had a surprise birthday thrown for her, and it was her dream. So we decided to make that happen! My husband planned a big get together at another friend’s house, we invited lots of friends, bought lots of food and even barbecue equipment, and really went all out.

BG found out about the surprise party a few weeks beforehand by accident, and was thrilled! Like, broke down sobbing she was so happy because no one had ever done it for her before. Awesome! We were hyped!

2 days before the party, she texts my husband that she’s changed plans and is going bowling with another friend instead. But we’re invited to come! 8D

….uh? What????

We were floored. And pretty pissed. And lots of people were already committed to coming to this thing! So we just had the party without her, and she texted us some super angry messages because we didn’t show up for bowling.

Now no one is friends with her.

#52

I have a story that I don’t really like to talk about. This has been a recent event in my life and is serious. My friend that I am no longer friends with is someone that I have known for years. We are neighbors and practically grew up together.

He was a relatively normal person and had good morals up until he was introduced to social media. He used yolo on Snapchat as well as Instagram. He mainly used Snapchat and yolo.

At this time, his parents were typically not home or helping with taking care of the recent baby brother he received so he had plenty of free time and that free time he used to post yolos. Before he used social media, he was really into the joker for some odd reason. He’d act like the character for no reason and act strange towards strangers and ppl he knew. He even acted that way towards his girlfriend. He ended up losing her because he was acting oddly towards her. All whilst this was happening, he was saying horrifying things on Snapchat. I thought that what he was posting was very disturbing and I got tired of it. He also threatened to k**l people and hurt people.

I ended up taking screenshots of what he was posting and showed the school administration to see if they could help him. He ended up getting suspended for a substantial amount of time and thankfully stopped what he was doing. I am not longer his friend because I can’t take any chances of him finding out and hurting me.

TL:DR
My friend acted like the joker and threatened to k**l people so I told the school and got him suspended.

Call me a snitch all you want, but it would’ve gotten worse if I didn’t do anything.

#53

My one guy friend(24) told me(25F) on NYE that 2020 was the year he was going to f**k me, even if it requires r**e. So I blocked him everywhere and cut all contact. He has since tried to reach me through other ppl to “apologize” but a b***h ain’t got time for that foolery.

#54

Said I was being a bad friend for not wanting to game after my 6th 10 hour shift that week. I was beyond exhausted and desperately wanted to go to bed.

Said friend also called me a “little b***h” because i was worried that I got my then gf pregnant before this incident. That gf later left me for other reasons, so I decided to start making changes without her holding me back. New job, different living arrangement, started doing more outside of the house etc. I didn’t mean for him to be one of the things left behind, but I’ve gotten out of that pit and have much better friends now.

#55

I had a friend was on the phone with my brother who was hanging out with me and my ex gf. He was on speaker but didnt know, and asked my brother of he was going to try to sleep with my gf… which all 3 of us heard.

My brother ended that conversation real quick after that and I never spoke to that friend again.

#56

I disclosed to her that I’d been pressured into s*x work by an a*****e partner some years previously. No details, just that exact phrase, “pressured into s*x work”. I said it calmly, and it had come up naturally in the conversation.

She took that opportunity to pry for details on what funds and fluids were exchanged and then told me I wasn’t REALLY pressured into s*x work. I asked her to stop — she was the first person I’d ever told this to, and I was really hurt. She doubled down, saying she didn’t see why she was wrong when I was just making light of people who’d actually been trafficked and stuff.

Things had been rocky before but I really wanted to make the friendship work, such that I took a vacation and flew halfway across the country to visit. I stuck it out the rest of the vacation but honestly I should have just turned the car around then, gotten my stuff, and flown back home early.

F**k you Audrey. When a friend discloses something personal and painful, you support them. Be skeptical if you want to, but you don’t get to f*****g argue about the validity of their trauma.

#57

Not just *a* friendship, but multiple.

I was part of a decent-sized friend circle, everyone hung out and knew each-other. A couple of them decide to invite “a*****e” to hang out with us. A*****e started openly insulting one friend, to his face, for being a homosexual. My girlfriend (God bless her for this) was the first person to stand up for gay friend. A*****e gets all huffy, won’t apologize, and leaves. “Friends” started getting rude with her, myself, and gay friend. They blame the three of us for creating drama (me for backing up both of them,). Gay friend stopped hanging out with everyone because it was clear they were siding with a*****e.

When we’re all hanging out again, who should show up this time but a*****e, with his friend we’ll call Pervert. Pervert keeps making disgusting remarks to girlfriend while giving me a look like he’s challenging me. Girlfriend tells him to f**k off after he starts going on about what he’d do to her if he found her in a dark alley. We both leave. One “friend” texts me later telling both of us to never hang out with the group again. The rest of them start ghosting us.

Then the stalking started. They’d show up in groups to places they knew girlfriend and I would be at. A*****e, Pervert, and the whole crew. They wouldn’t say anything to us, just barge in, sit nearby, and make themselves as loud and disruptive as possible. That behavior ended up getting them banned from most local places after too many people complained.

About a year later, one of the former friends contacted us when he was drunk, lonely, and feeling guilty. Friend group fell apart shortly after they got banned from local places we’d hang out at. People blamed each-other for escalating, everything was non-stop drama, people started picking sides and factionalizing, and it finally fell apart with all of them hating each-other. A*****e moved away, Pervert was in jail. Girlfriend and I pretty much told him to go pound sand.

#58

There was this kid at my middle school who everyone liked and thought was really funny. Everyone in my large friend group was friends with him. Then one day, he called one of our teachers(not even a teacher people outright hated, she was more just kinda quirky and annoying) the n-word. Eventually everyone found out and we knew that nothing constituted that and I don’t know of anyone who genuinely liked him by the end of the year.

#59

Had an intervention between a couple who were also my friends. The girl literally said that she was dating the guy for convenience and thought it was okay to: 1) say that it was his fault that he got fired from his mother’s workplace after she instigated him; 2) talk s**t on his recently deceased grandmother who raised him; 3) compare him with her ex-boyfriend and a lot more. Stopped talking to her ever since, despite living in the same house as her for a couple more months.

Even after hearing that, the boyfriend didn’t break up with her until the end of the school year. He started dating a new girl (who is friends with my boyfriend) and then proceeded to cheat on her. Immediately dumped him as a friend as well.

Can’t believe I lived with these two bozos. The only good thing to come out of that friendship is my current boyfriend, who they introduced to me.

#60

Yep we were great friends for about 10 years, but everything became about drinking for him. My other friends and I had several interventions with him. After I couple of years I told him “You call us your brothers, but you won’t do the one thing we want you to do, which is to stop drinking.” I then cut him out of my life.

That was about 5 years ago. Last I heard he got his 3rd DWI and is going to jail for a couple of years. Too bad too. When he wasn’t drunk, he was a great guy, but it got to where all he wanted to do was drink.

#61

My best friend in college was a girl named *gina*. She and I got along really well and would get drunk and have awesome deep conversations, so everything together, explore etc. natural college s**t when you’re experiencing the world on your own for once.

She liked d***s and tripping and living in shared communities with people she felt were deep. I like drinking and partying and having my own apartment room/bathroom. I personally think nothing is wrong with either preference. She goes off to get a law degree in a city about 3 hours away, i begin working as a chemical engineer in our college town. We stay in touch but i know she’s busy with school no big deal. I visit her a few times but she never comes down to me. Didn’t really have a problem with it at the time but after the fact noticed.

She comes back for a summer internship. I text her and call her and go out of my way to take her to happy hour at high end cocktail bars she picks. To dinner at trendy restaurants. Etc. I pay for everything as I’m the one with the job, no problem i make plenty of money. But every time we meet up it’s her complaining for 2-3 hours about drama or school or whatever and i can’t get a word in. I’m always asking for her to hang out. She’s always prioritizing some boy one month, another boy the next. One time I’m out with other friends at the bar, it was a birthday and we got extra done up. I was feeling great, had some cute fake lashes on, cute dress, and ran into her. Overheard her telling my boyfriend/now husband that she didn’t want to hang around because i had fake lashes on so I must be blacked out drunk (was not. There is nothing wrong with putting a little more effort than normal and feeling beautiful ever so f**k her)

Finally i get tired of making all the effort. I step back and decide I’ll wait for her to ask me to hangout. She ends up moving back to finish her law degree at the college we went to together/in the town i live in. 6 months go by and i get a single text saying “hey are you mad at me? My sister was being crazy last time we hung out. Do you have any hot friends that might be interested in s*x with me? No strings attached”.

I never responded. Never spoke to her again. Been about 3-4 years now. Am still really sad about it. I thought we had a great friendship but I valued her much more than she valued me.

#62

I had a friend who came into my queer house and called my queer friend a f****t and p***y for not drinking and was just generally bullying people ALL night. I haven’t talked to him since and don’t plan to. To be fair he had been on my nerves for a while beforehand with other little incidents of selfishness and a**holery for like a couple years before this. That was just the nail in the coffin.

#63

1. He became a n**i peace of poop. I immediately broke contact after he started talking s**t about black people.
2. He said “he doesn’t need friends” after I’ve turned him down because I was in a relationship. He contacted me a couple of times later just to ask if I’m in a relationship still. D****e.
3. We were friends, hanged one evening at his place, all good.. next day he calls me and says “I really regret I didn’t have s*x with you yesterday”. Had no idea where that came from. I broke contact because he basically revealed all he actually wanted.

#64

I worked in a restaurant with my best friend (I will call her E) and she was engaged to her boyfriend of 5+ years. We met this guy at work (I will call him H) and E would not stop talking about how much H was into me. E invited H to MY house to ‘set us up’ and play match maker. E kept pressuring me to have s*x with H and I was obviously not going to do that since neither of us knew him too well and So I went to bed. E ended up having s*x with H in my backyard and everyone heard it. When I called her out, E tried to tell me that H r***d her and threatened to spread horrible rumors about me if I told her fiancé. I didn’t tell her fiancé. I cut her off and she proceeded to still spread the rumors about me. I got her fired and escorted off property by police for threatening me.

#65

When I realized how unhealthy our relationship was. I didn’t have enough experience at the time to pick up in the fact that she expected me to pay attention to her to the same extent a romantic partner might (not the same behavior per se but the same level of communication, support, etc.). I also didn’t realize how controlling she was (I’d get accused of not texting enough, not responding to every point brought up in paragraphs of text, not complimenting things right, etc.). Things had been cooling between us (I was actually forming healthy relationships with friends and a new partner) and I ended up explicitly cutting ties with her when I told her I was hurt and all she could do was respond “sorry but here’s what I think you did wrong” (paraphrasing but 1 paragraph of apology and 2 paragraphs of outlining my apparent misdeeds painted a pretty clear picture).

#66

We had been the best friends for over 15 years, did everything together. She had been pulling stunts for a while but I always forgave her cause she had it rough with her parents during our teen years. In our mid-20s, a friend we knew our whole childhood died suddenly, he was more like a big brother to me and was my brothers best friend. It shocked my whole family that she was quite close to, was an extremely hard time as he died so young.

The funeral came and went and she never turned up, texted, nothing. A week later I got a text saying ‘phone died, soooo upset about last week, hows you?’. I just couldn’t respond and explain how s****y everything about that text was so I didn’t reply. It became clearer that I had made the right decision of cutting her off when my parents and brother ended up in the hospital the few months after the funeral for a series of crazy incidents all unrelated to each other. New and old friends came out of nowhere to help me but she never turned up for any of my family.

Its been 6 years and honestly the best decision I have ever made for myself.

#67

I was out at a bar with some friends. A guy shows up at the bar that makes one of my friends, let’s call her Anne, uncomfortable. There’s bad history between the guy and Anne that really isn’t my business to share, but she had recently filed a police report against him. When Anne sees him, she is clearly upset and hides in the bathroom. One of my other friends talks to the bouncer and gets the guy kicked out. Now here’s the s****y part. One of our other friends, Sarah, starts loudly telling the table how much Anne was over reacting and that it was unfair that the guy got kicked out. I was appalled (and drunk) and walked away from the situation. The next day I texted Sarah and told her that I really wasn’t ok with what she had said and tried to explain how problematic it was. She refused to apologize, continued to victim blame, and then once we all stopped talking to her, she texted Anne and blamed her for “ruining her year”. Blocked and deleted her info.

#68

Said he wanted to sleep with mutual friends fiancé.

#69

Ahhh yes. When my then best mate tried to guilt me back into the d***s. I did my best to get him out but all he wanted to do was chase. 15 years of friendship gone. I got clean, got a career and got a family. As far as I know he has never stayed clean, has a kid he doesn’t see and still works bars.

#70

This one needs a little backstory… I was in boy scouts from age 6 to 13, and was a leaderboard popcorn scamm- “salesman,” and adored summer camp and hanging out with my troop and stuff, so I of course built up a sense of security around them.

It was about this time that I was figuring out who I was, what I wanted to do, and most importantly how I think. I wasn’t necessarily christian, but I prayed with them anyway, and did their bible study thing for a badge. I didn’t really understand any of it, but I participated because my friends would.

When gay marriage was legalized in my state, they canceled the meeting that week so that the majority of the boys could protest it in front of the courthouse and capital. I didn’t want to go, because I’m not a total a*****e, so I just didn’t have anything to do that weekend. When we came back on Tuesday, the scout master opened with a prayer, and said some strongly anti-LGBTQ+ lingo, and when we were sent to our individual patrols I tried to talk with my best friend at the time about why he went.

He started ranting about how cruel it was to subject their churches to homosexuality, and everyone was just joining in complaining about people and they suggested some evil stuff. My mistake was trying to reason with them. After that I just stopped coming to the meetings. The few guys at school were asking questions, I just kept saying that I lost interest. (Which was very untrue, I was super happy with scouting) but I’d rather keep distance from judgmental people.

Also an important note; My sister recently came out, so I absolutely made the right decision

TL;DR I lost most of my friends at the same time because I learned they were huge homophobes.

#71

Her life is very much about her and she found time for me when she had nothing else going on. I pulled the plug on it when she spent an hour justifying her sleeping with a married man.

#72

It took a while to put the distance in, but I decided I was out the moment she told me she wrote fanfic. Which i’d be okay with, if the story she showed me didn’t feature an 8 year old boy being ‘taught about manhood’ by his early 30 somethings aunt. In graphic detail. Over what appeared to be about 8 chapters.

She was early thirties and has a son of the same age. I very much hope that has become “had a son” but i am sooooooooo far out of contact I wouldn’t know.

#73

He went psycho-ex on his girlfriend when they broke up. We told him to cool his jets and stop being a d**k, so he cut us out of his life for “taking her side.”.

#74

Blamed me for her having drunk s*x with a coworker after I left the bar drunk myself. Couldn’t bring myself to fly across the country for her bachelorette party after that, both because of the cheating and because I have self respect. Telling her I wasn’t going and why essentially led to her nuking both her relationship with myself and our other female coworker friend, who she’d been mad at for staying at the hotel with her fiance that night instead of going out with us. Life’s too short for this.

#75

I have a pretty serious liver disease. My friend and I were talking about feeling old and i causally said “i feel like i have one foot in the grave.”
She looked me dead in the eye and said “Well you do. you have that liver disease, you’re gonna die young. Sucks”

I haven’t spoke to her in three years….and my liver has started failing.

Thanks, Ryann, you b***h.

#76

I went to stay the night with one of my best friends. Long story short, the entire night was just her on her phone, not invested or listening to anything I said. (I knew this bc I tested it by saying something that could not be funny in the slightest, and she let out this huge fake laugh without looking up from her phone.) This was a problem I’d been having with her the past year at most.

She wanted to go to sleep *super* early because she was tired. I ended up lying and saying I needed to go home and she was more than fine with it. After all, all she wanted to do was sleep or text.

Not even an hour after I’m home, I see her Snapchat story of her at her other new friends house drinking and seemingly having a BLAST. not only was it hurtful she did that, but that she didn’t care I would SEE IT.

That was when I decided we were no longer best friends

I still get sad about it because we had been so close since junior high. some people just change for the worst.

#77

I’ve had friends just straight up stop talking to me which I guess is a strong indicator that our friendship is over.

#78

A guy I considered my friend and crush once told me he wouldn’t care if I died. Needless to say, I was heartbroken.

To those of you wondering about the context, here it is. (I posted about it the other day because I’m just now coming to terms with it.)

So, I used to be a nice girl. I had a minute-long crush on any guy who would give me attention, and I was super emo and angsty (partially because of a difficult home life). I was clingy with my friends and really socially awkward. I’ll be Me, and the guy can be N for nice guy. Our school guidance counselor will be GC.

We were both 15. N was a band geek, obsessed with the girls in color guard and the one girl in his band group. While I was more of a shy nice girl who mostly got her feelings out with punk music, N was very extroverted, saying he loved being “constantly surrounded by beautiful women of the color guard who love me” and often gave girls (including me for a time) unsolicited, very tight hugs all the time. He was no catch, but I was looking at the world through rose-colored glasses. All of our mutual friends knew that I liked him by this point, and they had all encouraged me to just go for it already.

I had come out to N about liking him the day before, and I’d had this overwhelming crush on him for over a year by then. I was devastated by this. I had our first date built up in my head and a consuming idea of what a happy couple we would be like together. He gave me an honest answer, and I can respect that now, but I didn’t want to take no for an answer back when I was a moronic 15-year-old.

It was at the beginning of lunch, and no one else had sat down at our friend table yet. I sat down in my usual seat next to N, and he started talking to me like nothing had happened the day prior. I refused to act like nothing had happened and confronted him. I pretty much went off on him about how I would be great for him (very nice girl) and said something along the lines of, “I can’t keep living like this, being just your friend.”

He replied, “Then don’t live. I don’t care.”

My face went red, and I ran into the bathroom to cry. I thought I loved him in my 15-year-old head because he could make me feel normal. When he told me that, I took it as him telling me to k**l myself and began a downward spiral where I actually wanted to for years.

N and someone I thought was my friend began to bully me after that, saying I was not welcome and that I was a loser. I heard through the grapevine that he called me a “crazy b***h stalker girl” at one point. We were all in the same Honors classes (of which there was only one of each–small school), so there was nothing I could do about it unless I wanted to completely change the trajectory of my school life and drop honors.

Here’s where the story takes a major twist. N’s mom was friends with the school’s only guidance counselor, who was in charge of making class schedules and taking charge with “problem children” who were at risk with d***s or violence. One day I was walking quickly (behind N apparently) so I could put my stuff down in class and go to the bathroom like I always did at this time of day. GC called my dad without me knowing and called him to the office for a meeting with the entire school’s administration staff. My dad took off work and went to the school, thinking that my newfound reclusive behavior may have been a sign that I was getting into d***s and the school was worried.

Instead, my dad went through what he described to me as a circular conversation with GC and the rest of the administration. He was instructed not to tell me this, but he did anyway. The people told my father that he had to “shut me up” and “make me leave N alone.” They said that I was causing trouble for one of their brighter and more popular students, and that they had school cam footage they would present to the police of me stalking him through the halls if they had to.

Since that infamous “I don’t care” day, I have been hospitalized three times for attempted s*****e. I had gone off the deep end, almost hurting N during a horrible panic attack. I had cried openly in front of people I barely knew in school. N and one of our mutual friends started bullying me, and I eventually had to move towns and change schools because it wasn’t going to stop. I have one friend that I still talk to from that school; the others I tried to talk to afterward but it didn’t really work out.

I have since gone through an underage drinking phase and a h*e phase, both of which I have gotten over entirely. I will probably be on anti-anxiety medication for the rest of my life, but I have since found religion and made peace with myself over what happened. I have forgiven N, and I think the final part of that was writing out the main details and posting. So thank you.

And that’s what happens when a nice girl likes a nice guy. They’re both immature and pretty terrible. But things aren’t all bad. That friend I mentioned that I keep up with: We’ve been dating for over a year now, and we told each other that we love one another for the first time just last week.

#79

My “best friend” all through high school always had some weird f*****t-y tendencies through the time I knew him. Literally couldn’t admit he was wrong about anything, blindly and loyalty supported the US government and police, and thought that weed was the most evil thing in the world. At one point, he told me, knowing that me and my parents had all tried weed, that anyone who had ever smoked pot should be locked up for their whole lives to “protect them”.

The final straw was after I went to him after my first s*****e attempt. He didn’t have any emotional response to his close friend of many years telling him that they’d tried to k**l themselves. All he did was ask if I had smoked within a month of the attempt. When I said yes, he told me that that was why and refused to discuss the topic further. I wasn’t sure how to feel about it that day, but we didn’t really speak again (our families used to be so close that they were practically intertwined, so this was a pretty big deal). I messaged him a month or two ago during a bad depressive episode, after not having spoken in years, and he actually apologized, for the first time since I met him. We still aren’t friends, but I’m glad that I don’t feel the same animosity anymore.

#80

Had a friend over to my apartment who asked for a soda and I figured he was trustworthy enough to say, “Help yourself from the fridge.” He returned to the living room and announced that he had fixed my thermostat setting.

Just like that. He hadn’t asked permission. He didn’t remember what setting it was before he messed with it. He couldn’t even articulate what he thought was wrong with my setting.

This was quite a few years ago before the Internet had enough information to look up refrigerator settings in a minute. So I looked inside my fridge and tried to figure out what to do, then shrugged and went back to other responsibilities. I was a full time student working two part time jobs.

In the next week all the contents of my fridge rotted.

This guy doesn’t take any responsibility for the expense or the effort of replacing a full fridge of food.

At this point I realize he’s really an affable jerka**. Thinking back on a couple of other things he’d done that I’d written off as honest mistakes when they first happened, I decide he’s more trouble than he’s worth.

#81

I had a long time friend who was in an unhappy situation. He lived at home and had just been laid off of a job he loved. He was pretty unhappy.

The problem was that he was a b***h about it. He had no education and was incredibly unhealthy, but would not accept a position for under 60k a year starting. I’d find something close to his home that was near that pay and he would turn it down. He was just a d**k, all the time. And I tried to be patient.

I have this rule with all my friends. If you’re rude to me then whatever, but if you’re in my home and you’re rude to my other guests to an unreasonable degree then we are done.

He made the mistake of taking his b****y attitude and sniping constantly at my other friend and my wife. At the end of the evening I just never contacted him again. I never said anything, I just dropped the friendship and moved on.

It’s been three years and if I’ve heard truthfully from others he is still unemployed and still lives with his mom.

#82

I’ve posted this elsewhere but it’s relevant. I met Lisa at university, doing our Master degree. When we met, she lived in the inner city, as did I. We hung out a lot, as we had a mutual love of good food and too much wine. Then she got pregnant and moved out to the ‘burbs. It took me nearly 2hrs to get to her new place on public transport (longer on weekends), as I don’t have a car because…inner city living! But still, I consistently go to visit her – birthdays, dinners, baby shower, baby parties, just to hang out, babysat a couple of times. Sometimes I stayed the night, but mostly I came home. She never came my way anymore as she was a single mother so her flexibility during pregnancy and especially with a newborn was limited. Then one night I missed the last tram home by about 3 seconds, and got stuck in the middle of a sketchy area for a while very late at night (around 1.45am), until my Uber arrived. The Uber trip home cost me over $100, which is why I kept using public transport. I made a joke about it the next morning, we had a laugh, I thought nothing of it. Went to a few more events at her place after that.

Then she messages me one night specifically to tell me that I’m not invited to her birthday dinner that weekend and was no longer welcome at any of her events until I had ‘an alternative method of transport’. Apparently me getting home was causing her massive stress (first I’d heard of it) and she was sick of me shutting down her ideas (again – first I’d heard of it, we’d literally never talked about it before). She told me I was welcome to discuss it more if I wanted but she hoped she understood why I wasn’t welcome at her house any longer.

This is was in May 2018. I never responded, and we haven’t spoken since. She’s made no attempt to contact me. I didn’t respond because her birthday dinner had been planned for a couple of weeks, so she had plenty of time to speak with me about her concerns and reach a resolution, rather than just telling me I’m no longer welcome at any event. The first I knew there was any issue was this message.

TL:DR; I don’t have a car so I’m no longer welcome at my friend’s house.

#83

She did something that really upset me and hurt me. And she responded by telling me ‘it’s no big deal’. So I didn’t want to be friends with someone that could hurt me and then tell me it’s not a big deal. Unfortunate because she was one of my closest friends.

#84

Many times. It’s part of life. You grow and sometimes you grow apart. Sometimes you just don’t have that much in common anymore and the relationship starts to fade. But to answer you question —

I tried to stay friendly with a guy I dated off and on for a few years. We had some pretty epic fights mostly because he was 100% a s*x a****t and that’s all he could thing about. No matter what our conversation was – he’d always revert it back to s*x. I don’t know how many times I told him I wasn’t interested.

I was really stressed out one day and asked him how much the going rate for installing kitchen cabinets was – as I was thinking of buying my condo.

“Well, I’m sure we could work something out, if you know what I mean – like you wearing a French maid’s outfit while I did the work.”

I lost my s**t. Had a lot I was dealing with. He wound up unfriending me on all platforms and we haven’t chatted since.

#85

I was becoming friends with a random guy I met about town a few months ago, until one day we were just hanging out and he let slip an *extremely* transphobic comment. I told him to get out of my apartment and not to contact me again until he learned how to respect others. He never got back to me.

#86

Was having a discussion about mental illness over the phone and OCD was brought up. She said that everyone has OCD in some sort of way. I said that no, it’s a diagnosable illness and while people can have OCD tendencies it doesn’t necessarily mean that person has OCD and that being particular about cleanliness is in no way the same as having the illness. She ended up telling me that I was wrong and couldn’t deal with the fact that I was wrong and needed to be able to accept she was right. Blocked her number immediately and never spoke to her again.